What is the best oil-based lubricant to use for sex?

My boyfriend and I are gonna have sex for the first time and we will use a condom along with lube. I heard water-based lubes make the condom easier to tear.What is the best oil-based lubricant to use for sex?
You have it backwards. Oil based lubricant makes it easier for a condom to tear. You want a water based or silicone based lubricant.What is the best oil-based lubricant to use for sex?
oil based lubes waken latex, only use it with urethane condoms or with no condom